The reconciliation of responsible heterosexual mas- culinity with buddy—buddy thrills and spills is a hard act and forms the tedious basis of many tales of heterosexuality. They might be distortions of the truth, but there was something in them, and even something we often found attractive.
Also, there was a recognized racial hierarchy among non-white men. This was ulti- mately the problem for me and perhaps why I never took this gay route out all the way. You're married with children. New York: Elsevier. Assertiveness and Self-Display.
Theses are, of course, the kinds of things that friends, and more generally people who care for one another, do. Acknowledgement From Attitude July It simply is, it's a fact of who some people are, and the guilt and the shame that some gays feel is not due to who they are, but is the result of attitudes deposited upon them by the narrow thinking of the straight world.